my father died last monday, the 4th at the age of 82. he had suffered from severe alzheimers for the last few years.
his funeral was yesterday.
as my brother and i made the arrangements (my mother died in 2003) he suggested and i agreed that we would each give a eulogy.
Oh man, dude, I'm in tears and I'm not a crier, really. That was awesome. If you hadn't made the decision to leave, you would have never had that moment, those words would have never been said.
Bless you man, what you said was awesome, thank you for posting that. Our condolences to you for your loss.
i have really felt a weight off my shoulders since bringing up my first story yesterday, so i would like to tell another story of my life, if for no other reason than to finally talk about it.
once again sugesstions on how to deal with this trauma is much needed.
i was dfd at 13 for the first time.
What a safe arrangement that was. (sarcasm) I understand wanting to 'supervise' your child, but gee. You don't mention, but I wonder if your parents provided any recreation--even the WT says that should be important in a family--or was your whole life a punishment from the DF'g on? DF'd or not, you were just a kid. JW parents get so worried about how the family looks to others, they forget their primary job=love, teach, parent, plan, prepare.
Onward dear! Life gets better for you and yours now, you can do so much more for yourself and your own kids and still teach them right from wrong.
A recent university study says that blue-eyed people come from one single ancestor, that blue eyes are a very specific trait. My money is on blue eyes. Noah was carrying blue eyes, not that they're a defect.
i know many very honest jws.
if i had someone do work for me, clean my home, etc.----i'd generally be more at ease with a faithful jw over most others.
in the matter of housekeeping, i'd think that they might be nosier but i doubt they'd outrightly steal from me.. what's your thought on this subject?.
No. Outright honesty, sure they have that, so do 99% of my co-workers. I believe that they would lie when under pressure or to protect themselves and that they think they have the right to do so without being questioned.
They believe that 'their laws are above the supreme court and above worldly laws'. This makes them insidious characters.
a jw mother recently received a background check phone call concerning her son's interest in pursuing a career in law enforcement in another state.
she says nice enough things about her (ex-jw) son, but states that she doesn't talk to him much because he left the family religion, and then has the nerts to say that while she supports him to an extent, she disapproves of his career choice because, "as duhhhhoho's witlesses, we don't believe in law enforcement.
" what a shame to admit this.. i say, don't call 9-1-1 you stupid piece o' hell.
A JW mother recently received a background check phone call concerning her son's interest in pursuing a career in law enforcement in another state. She says nice enough things about her (ex-jw) son, but states that she doesn't talk to him much because he left the family religion, and then has the nerts to say that while she supports him to an extent, she disapproves of his career choice because, "As Duhhhhoho's Witlesses, we don't believe in law enforcement." What a shame to admit this.
I say, don't call 9-1-1 you stupid piece o' hell. Can you believe the idiocy?
while i am going to do my research (again), i would love to hear your thoughts-.
especially those of you who have said something to a loved one about the .
card, whether it was a good or bad thing to say.. my wife will fill out her "no blood" card today and take it to the meeting for the .
Pretend, then 'cave'. It's not just her life, it's yours too that'll be irreparably changed if she were to die. My short story:
At the age of 19, I experienced great blood loss in 1988 after a motorcycle accident, Oct 23. All hospital forms had been signed, then a few days later, some smartass elder said we needed a POA signed by witnesses so that NO ONE could change his or her mind when things became worse, and things were getting worse everyday, my parents and close friends were beside themselves. My H&H counts went so low, my parents were told several times over a couple of days to call family and friends in, that it might end soon. Surgery to repair damage was not possible without blood transfusions--open reduction of a femur is accompanied by lots and lots of blood loss. (After I got home, on my dad's desk calendar he had written down everyday what my hematocrit and hemoglobin counts had dropped to--I have that, I'll post that info one day.)
Panicked, my dad wanted to do a POA right then, at that moment the only 2nd witness present to sign was my un-baptized but studying, sister-in-law. Now, she's my ex-SIL and never was baptized and we're great friends. We talked about that time recently, for the first time, she said she would have never forgiven herself if I had died, and she thinks she might have given in when it came down to it.
After 11 days, my internal bleeding stopped/blood count started to rise, simply because by chance it did, NO thanks to anyone. I had surgery on Nov 9 and left the hospital on Nov 15. I was, no, I am, simply fortunate.
so i'm tickled at this story from another site i visit:.
a story i heard.... one day my mother was out and my dad was in charge of me.
i was maybe 2 1/2 years old and had just recovered from an accident.
i'm doing well academically, connecting with my professors and such.
right now i'm not too motivated to do anything.
the only motivation i have is graduating and going to another school to further my profession.
You need a break, maybe that'll do it for you--restore your passion. What are you passionate about? It'll come back to you, I promise. Previous posters are right--your age is in your favor, your status-getting your education-is in your favor--just work at restoring your balance by not working, aka, take a break!!
We love ya man, depressed or not.
i'm a man of neither wealth nor taste (my apologies to messrs. jagger, richards, et al.
anyway, i have lurked here off-and-on for a while.
as i stated a couple of days ago, i am impressed with the level of knowledge of many of the posters on this board.
Ok, you can stay. And WELCOME. Love your reasoning, more thoughts I had as an adolescent but pushed into the back of my mind. . .'why are we out here on a Saturday morning for 2 hours again?. . .if it's urgent and lives are at stake, why are we planning on going swimming at noon??'
All well said, sir. Glad you're here.
a question on a recent application that my husband filled out for a state job, substance of question was: 'are you now a member of or have any affiliation with any organization or association that inhibits you or prevents others from the practice of their constitutional rights?
' while jw membership is essentially voluntary, when you think about it, in what ways do their rules impede the constitutional and civil rights of its members?.
their anti-gun/anti-every-form-of-self-defense policy is one.
'State job' or 'police department' application. . .as a few have said, in either case a person may not be able to fully carry out the duty to protect the freedom of others if that person was a member of a group whose precepts prohibit the exercise of Constitutional rights, hence that is why the question was on the app.
It was eye-opening to be asked that question, for that is the case of JWs. As I said, it prompted us to remit our DA letter, just like when our parents left the Catholic church they wrote a letter so that they would be free of any such ties and be 'whole-souled', so did we.
